Kiss & Tell

Ms. and I work in TV. We met on the same show; Ms. has already explained this. When you meet either of us it’s not obvious that we date girls – we don’t look like dykes – which was a good thing because the show we met on was known to be a political minefield. But now we’ve each moved on and are interviewing for bigger and better things. Last week Ms. met with some folks about working on a new show and recommended me. Now, is there some sort of obligation to divulge our relationship before we’re hired? If we were straight and married would it have been easier for Ms. to casually mention it when recommending me? And in an industry where nepotism is an accepted hiring practice, does it actually hurt us that we don’t use each other as a boost, but interview on our own merits? Ethically, what do our prospective bosses and coworkers have a right to know?

~ Miss